The tough stuff - the horror of his diagnosis, his terrible treatments and life-altering side effects, the odds stacked up against him. His treatments were relentless. He was in many ways sidelined from a 'normal' childhood by this disease. Focusing on the tough stuff is focusing on the aged woman in the picture.
It seems that I can shift my focus from one aspect of his life story to the other. Just like in the picture above.
But, in reality they are both there and they will always be.
Perhaps the tough stuff makes the good stuff even more beautiful. Perhaps the beautiful stuff makes the hard part even harder. The reality is they co-exist together and always will; the yin and yang of life.
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This musing speaks to me. Love you, Lara.
Yes, you are so right. They are always there together. I hope for you the beauty outweighs the ugly as time goes on when you think of your sweet Hans. Kind of like the beautiful treasure of the pearl in the gritty roughness of the sand.
Prayers for your family.
You are absolutely right. I've thought about that alot, why bad things have to happen. It is the balance of life. It still doesnt seem very fair sometimes and it down right sucks. I miss Hans alot. I miss you too. I'll see ya in a couple weeks.
~Vicki K
Well said Lara & very true. I think about your family a lot. Thanks for the updates. It's nice to hear your thoughts. Love from The Woodlands :)
Oh sweet Lara...you are very inspiring. See you soon. D
Some say the first thing that happens after you die is you experience a life review. I'm sure Hans thoughts mirror your own.So generous of you to share with us all.
Well said! It is so hard to see the good in such hard times, but I pray everyday that God gives you strength and peace. You are an awesome mom and now Hans will take care of you. Love you my friend.
Mayada
Lara, so beautifully put as always. Why don't you write a book? You're amazing, as was Hansie! What's that 'ole saying? - "The apple doesn't fall far from the tree..."
Luv you,
Carm
Lara, lovely as always, you have such a way of putting words on paper. I really think you should write a book someday. See ya soon
Bren
Lara,
I agree with all the responses above.
You’re an old soul and a young soul
Please Write! Can’t wait till we
see you and your family up here.
Love,
Pat K.
Oh, sweet Lara, life does mix the sweet with the bitter.
Hans and family faced life day by day, showing us how to live well, optimistically and with joy!
May all of the joyful, dear, quiet memories with Hans fill you, Kevin, and dear Elle with love, patience, and grace during this time.
I look forward to celebrating Hans' life and spirit with you soon!
Love and hugs,
Aunt Susy
Oh good, susan, I'm glad you can come and join us!
Lara, I have to say that you, Hansie, Kevin and Elle have been an inspiration to us all, ever since you received that awful diagnosis, throughout the almost continuous treatment and now, even when you are all trying to make sense of everything, you continue to inspire us with your beautiful words. Hansie was a beautiful, sweet, little boy and will remain so in the hearts of everyone who knew him.
Unfortunately, distance makes it too difficult for me to get to Hans' Celebration of Life. There are no direct flights from Qatar to Seattle and the minimum travel time is 29 hours, so someone else will get the "farthest travelled ribbon":-) Please know that we will be thinking of you and will release our own balloons here in the Middle East in Hans' honour.
Much love, The Zeosky's...xx
BTW, I LOVE this picture of you guys.
I love this post! That drawing is an excellent example of how we can shift our perceptions. I'm very excited to see you and give you a hug and maybe pinch your cheeks. I always want to pinch your rosy cheeks. :)
xojana
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